How to Move On After A Break Up
If you are thinking about moving on, break up is quite hard to do. Do you dread the conversation that you have to have to tell your partner that the relationship is over? Or if it is your partner that is approaching you with the break up conversation you may try to distract him from the conversation to avoid it. But if a relationship is not working out anymore then there comes a time when you need to call it quits and move on.
This time is actually a good time to evaluate your life and your relationship and see if there is anything that you can do to improve them. It is difficult to know how to handle a break up and sometimes it can be a clean break while other times it really isn’t what you actually want. If you both sit down and talk about the relationship and what the problem is then perhaps you can work through the problems and save the relationship.
Catch the problem in time
Break ups can actually be avoided if you can catch the problem in time. If you find out what it is in the relationship that is going wrong then you can nip the problem in the bud before it forces the relationship to end. You may even need to reach a point of discussing a break up and whether that is the best option or whether you can work out your problems together and build a good, solid relationship. If you can figure out the problems and work at them then you may prevent your partner from breaking up with you and moving on.
When you are having a break up conversation and trying to salvage this relationship then the conversation needs to include the following:
* Ask your partner why they are unhappy in the relationship
* Ask your partner if you can work together to solve the issues and save the relationship
* Actively listen to what your partner says so that you can understand how he is feeling and what you can do to improve or change things in the relationship.
Once you know what is going wrong in your relationship then you can take the necessary steps to change the issues. Of course this needs to be a joint effort with both of you putting in an effort to rectify any problems and get your relationship back on track. Often a lack of communication is the biggest problem in a relationship and a couple doesn’t communicate until it is too late. As soon as you begin to see any cracks in the relationship this is the time to start talking about any issues and resolving them.
By talking about what is going wrong you can then work at fixing it and prevent that break up from happening.